Aren't we wrong?... A, E & P breakup talk

[Marie-Pier]

Are we wrong for judging Ellen's personnal life? All Alex/Ellen fans are shocked by Ellen's decision of breaking up (as i am) and we all say "ellen go back with alex"... but, we don't personnaly know Ellen. We don't know how much Ellen loves Portia (...).. we have no idea of what is really going on with the 3 of them. We support Ellen because we are her fans..., but are we wrong for doing what we do, judging her? I'm not talking about everyone because some of us only say personnal comments... But it's our Ellen's life and we don't know a thing about it .. :!: :?

(sorry for the spelling, i'm french)

[indecisive]

i think you're right. it's not always true what the medias report.
judging her wouldn't be right but in case all the people round here are not judging ellen. that's my impression. it's their personal opinion.

[bladesedge]

Personally, I say hey wow, they broke up. But then again, relationships break up around me all the time. Friend of mine was with another friend for 4 years, but mutually they decided to split. Lifestyles changed. One continued to be a student while the other started work full time. The extra money & new workmates allowed her to get out on the town more. He wasn't a party person & didn't like her going out to party with male friends, so they decided to end it.

Whos to say what the reason is behind it. And they will have a reason. But just like they have kept their relationship to themselves, they will keep the reason private as well. Anything else is speculation.

For myself I don't really care who, what, how, where or why. Just that they're both have an understanding of what the other person feels, and that they can now both move onwards & upwards.

[Marie-Pier]

i so agree with you bladesedge

[phranny]

As much as I think everyone is in shock over Alex and Ellen breaking up, myself included, I think instead of everyone making assumptions we should just sit back and see what happens. We are just as bad as the media in a way making accusations when we dont even know the truth. I am not trying to offend anyone dont get me wrong, but I think this whole thing has been blown out of proportion.

[laura123]

As much as I think everyone is in shock over Alex and Ellen breaking up, myself included, I think instead of everyone making assumptions we should just sit back and see what happens. We are just as bad as the media in a way making accusations when we dont even know the truth. I am not trying to offend anyone dont get me wrong, but I think this whole thing has been blown out of proportion.

I agree with you Phran. Of course we can have our opinion about the breaking up, but we shouldn't judge Ellen or Alex, as we don't know at all why they split up, who decided they should break up, how long this has been going, etc. Of course we can support them, that's what fans are for, but we should just wait and see what happens and see what, if they will, tell us and we should just let is rest. I just hope they'll both have a happy life, whether it's with each other or with someone else.

[forellen]

I agree.....we will never know what the actual story is coz they have no obligation to give the media the details or the truth for that matter....it's their personal life. I'm impressed by the way Ellen and Alex acknowledged the breakup but are totally private about it. We are nobody to judge them anyways.....Like I'd mentioned earlier, I love and adore Ellen for the things I KNOW.....her smile, her wit, her laugh, the way she dances, the way she goes...'how dare youuuu'...and I'll just keep loving her for all that.....the rest I'll never be lucky enough to know about her!

[hidden]

yeah, youre totaly right. i feel bad for both of them because of the publicity this is getting.

[xela]

I agree too. It's their personal life, that's all. :)

[Marie-Pier]

...just wanna say.... that Xela above... that wonderful Xela... is my girlfriend and she is so special.. i love her so much... ( 2 years and 2 months ) but it's not ellen topic so i'll shut up.... just wanted to say :oops:

[forellen]

Good for you guys!! That's fantastic!! Finding love is beautiful....holding on to it...priceless!! Keep on lovin' :D ....(Me, I'm still looking....)

[xela]

Thanks a lot ...I wish you a lot of chance! :mrgreen:

[rockin2evanescence]

Yeah, you guys are all right. It's not like we know every detail of their lives and maybe it is for the best for them to not be romantically involved. *sigh they were so cute together though :cry:

[auggiesociety]

Yeah, you guys are all right. It's not like we know every detail of their lives and maybe it is for the best for them to not be romantically involved. *sigh they were so cute together though :cry:
they really were. just picture perfect.... :cry:

[luv2all]

I agree we are wrong in judging Ellen, but I think what disapoints me is that she wore a wedding band...which should indicate forever. We as gay people are fighting for our equal rights yet when important breakups like this happen it shows we too can create and break commitments way to easily. To me forever means forever, through think and thin. I hope her and Allex work things out and that wedding band goes right back on her finger :roll:

[bladesedge]

I agree we are wrong in judging Ellen, but I think what disapoints me is that she wore a wedding band..which should indicate forever.

Plenty of straight people I know have been institutionally married for longer.

And they didn't wear wedding bands but commitment rings.

[Lisette]

I agree we are wrong in judging Ellen, but I think what disapoints me is that she wore a wedding band...which should indicate forever. We as gay people are fighting for our equal rights yet when important breakups like this happen it shows we too can create and break commitments way to easily. To me forever means forever, through think and thin. I hope her and Allex work things out and that wedding band goes right back on her finger :roll:

Gay or straight, sometimes people change. I think your statement puts so much pressure on a person. Since they are gay they must be held to a higher standard and behave better than others. What about just letting people live their lives and go thru situations as they see fit and not put the weight of the gay world on this one breakup. Would you prefer Ellen stay where she was not happy in order to keep the *image* intact? Your disappointment I understand, I don't understand what her breakup has to do with equal rights.

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[bocabana]

I live my life under The Golden Rule: I treat others in the way that I want to be treated.
So following that rule, I would never want to be judge by my behaviors. Though, people have no motive to judge me, frankly.
But, let´s put ourselves under Ellen´s shoes...it is tough. I would be beaten up if I would read some of this posts.
So let´s relax.
Let´s not judge.
We don´t want people to judge who we love, who we care for.
So let´s relax.