First time with a woman - fear, joy?

[Ronja]

When you first was with a woman. Were you afraid or anxious? Unsure or thrilled? How did you feel about it?

[Ronja]

Got my heart riped out...But some day i live be with the rigth one.... :D

Hm..what do you mean with: "Got my heart ripped out" What did happen?

[graceloo]

Well, I think I'm comfortable with females.. Back in high school, my female school mates would often hug me and place their heads on my shoulders... they think I'm like a big teddy bear and comfy to hug..

I'm alright with that, but not too long.. I'm not use to people touching me.. Hahaha..

Am I alright or what.. haha..

I am

[Ronja]

loool..that's a cool answer. looool

[roxyrocks]

i wasn't really afraid with my first because it was her first too... if i did feel something it was more like embarrased, about what, i don't remember. i think because she was older than i...

[itrack4u]

My first time with a woman was absolute joy. I was a senior in high school. It lasted for almost two years until she went away to college.
I've been looking for the right person ever since.

For a very long time I've felt being in love with another woman just wasn't in the cards for me. I have a chance with someone now. We'll see...

[hasidichyena]

Mine began as sheer joy,until we got in the house..then i was extremely nervous...but just kept moving,then the thrill came back at the right time! :P :P :P

[PaulaInLove]

Since the fear of getting pregnant was nonexistend (obviously) it was a lot more relaxed. I remember us having a blast.

[Jamie69]

It was amazing! But than it was obvious in the way I behaved (like saying things about wanting to marry Sharon Stone, Michelle Pfeifer or my teacher or like keaping repeating to a girl sitting aside my mother on the bus how pritty she was at age 5-6, or when I came back of a Queen Concert at Slane castle 1986 age 8 telling my mother I wanted to be Roger Taylor, drummer, because I saw him making authographs on girls bottums, my first kiss with a girl age 9, who was made in public by mistake)since a kid tha I was attracted to woman (aldough I am quite feminine)...
I never had a relationship nor a try with a man dough (did not interested me).... I did try to kiss my beste friend once, but I did not pull it off in the end, it didn't felt right and we ended up laughting.

[spookystarbuck]

It was amazing! But than it was obvious in the way I behaved (like saying things about wanting to marry Sharon Stone, Michelle Pfeifer or my teacher or like keaping repeating to a girl sitting aside my mother on the bus how pritty she was at age 5-6, or when I came back of a Queen Concert at Slane castle 1986 age 8 telling my mother I wanted to be Roger Taylor, drummer, because I saw him making authographs on girls bottums, my first kiss with a girl age 9, who was made in public by mistake)since a kid tha I was attracted to woman (aldough I am quite feminine)...
I never had a relationship nor a try with a man dough (did not interested me).... I did try to kiss my beste friend once, but I did not pull it off in the end, it didn't felt right and we ended up laughting.

That sounds so much like me. I was very much like that as a child and also, my mum says I never used to wear girls clothes, the only ones that I'd pick up were men's things, hehe. Ah well...I think my mum is trying to hint at something :lol:
Well, almost like me. I mean when I was younger I kissed girls in just like a friendly way and kissed friends when I was older at parties but was later told by them; "I only do it for male attention". Nice. Thanks for that. Still not found anybody, I am finding it really hard! :-(

[soozi]

yea, i always find it hard judging who's gay cos all my friends will quite happily snog my face off when we're out, but then theyr like oh i was drunk, was in the spirit of the night etc..still lookin for the special girl...

[Aleca]

the first time was with my current girlfriend so ...I was scared that I'd do anything wrong but it was amazing in the end. We're happy and I dont want anyone else :)

[ellens_dancer]

same here...never been with a woman, looking like crazy though for the right one....... its kinda hard cuz its hard for me to tell whos gay and who isnt......... cuz my friends will do something sexual, and then say something different....... i hate those girls who pretend their gay......... cuz it leads me on to nothing.......

[PaulaInLove]

You girls just need to stop looking for someone. They will come your way faster than you can say 'sexually frustrated'.
Enjoy freedom as long as you still have it :-) and make sure you take advantage of all those girls who pretend to be gay!!!

[petal]

I had to wait til I was 26yrs old - a long time but well worth the wait. First time for both of us and absolutely amazing.

[Alexema]

Not had my first time with a woman yet but i have fear and joy in anticipation for it. If that makes any sense?! xx

[irock4u]

Wow, Sometimes you read things that take your memory way back...

The first woman to ever come on to me, I squelled I'm not gay and left... :lol: :lol: :lol: I was 24 a long time to be in the closet then have someone put you on the spot.

Completely greatful to my first.

[Spud420]

OMG! The first time I tried...I was a little drunk and it was with one of my closest friends. It was just one of those nights.. However, my first real experience was unreal! It just keeps getting better the more comfortable I get with her! My current flame and I had a rough start and didn't speak to one another for about 2 months at the end of last year. Since January of this year, we have both changed for the better and things couldnt be better for us!

[Love9408]

It was with my girlfriend now. My first was her first so it wasn't as bad. Actually it was amazing! :D I was really scared though, but she helped me chill out and really enjoy everything! I actually dated a guy for a year and a half( i didnt really want to accept the fact that i was a lesbian i guess) but he really hurt me and then i met her. After the first time with her, it's been great!!!!

[DegeneresDerossi2007]

I'm lam i just want it to be good like Ellen and Portia you know they are so happy i want that first i need to loss some moer weigth and dress rigth..I ALL WAY BE ALONE..............I TO AUGLEY...ANYWAY YOU ALL ARE GOOD LOOKING.............SO IS ELLEN AND PORTIA....I NEED TO GET HELP ON MY LOOKS..NO ONE WITH EVEN LOOK AT ME........... :-( :( THAT WHY I WILL NEVER HAVE WHAT YOU ALL HAVE............

[petal]

......I TO AUGLEY...ANYWAY YOU ALL ARE GOOD LOOKING.............SO IS ELLEN AND PORTIA....I NEED TO GET HELP ON MY LOOKS..NO ONE WITH EVEN LOOK AT ME........... :-( :( THAT WHY I WILL NEVER HAVE WHAT YOU ALL HAVE............

I believe that there is a special someone for each and every one of us - just waiting to be found!!!!! So don't be so down on yourself my friend!!! By all means try & "improve" yourself to give YOU more self-confidence, but keep on searching & never give up. :)

[ohyeaah]

I believe that there is a special someone for each and every one of us - just waiting to be found!!!!! So don't be so down on yourself my friend!!! By all means try & "improve" yourself to give YOU more self-confidence, but keep on searching & never give up. :)

Well said Petal.

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[DegeneresDerossi2007]

[quote=DegeneresDerossi2007]......I TO AUGLEY...ANYWAY YOU ALL ARE GOOD LOOKING.............SO IS ELLEN AND PORTIA....I NEED TO GET HELP ON MY LOOKS..NO ONE WITH EVEN LOOK AT ME........... :-( :( THAT WHY I WILL NEVER HAVE WHAT YOU ALL HAVE............

I believe that there is a special someone for each and every one of us - just waiting to be found!!!!! So don't be so down on yourself my friend!!! By all means try & "improve" yourself to give YOU more self-confidence, but keep on searching & never give up. :)[/


Thanks Petal you are very nice.. :) thanks guys.......... :)

I agree totally with Petal, the search should never end until you have found that person whose been waiting on you, searching themselves for you.

Look at the positive things DegeneresDerossi2007, the positive thngs about yourself, project them while you work on your self confidence, that will help you to work towards your goal. Its not always easy to do, but you will get there in the end, tho I know you not, I promise you that. Chin up kiddo. :)

[DegeneresDerossi2007]

I agree totally with Petal, the search should never end until you have found that person whose been waiting on you, searching themselves for you.

Look at the positive things DegeneresDerossi2007, the positive thngs about yourself, project them while you work on your self confidence, that will help you to work towards your goal. Its not always easy to do, but you will get there in the end, tho I know you not, I promise you that. Chin up kiddo. :)


Thnak you. Very much.I had my heart rip out like Ellen my first love left me for a man and i guess that why i feel down all the time i see couples in love like Ellen and Portia and i'm like i want that same thing but some day some how i will find her and when i do i will be jumping for Joy..I mean i'm 25 got along time..But I have good bubbys like all of you to keep me going on life...............real name kat.I know Ellen pain man that hurt like a knife being pulled out of my heart. I was 18 and i was like what do i want now I know and that all that matters to me. She out thier some were .................thanks people...........................

[Black_Lady]

My first is..ah we aren't in a relationship right now, but i kno , we'll be..
and to be honest, i 'm afraid.I cant imagine us like that..
But by the way, i want it so bad..Oh my, that called 'love' (=

[pisimbat]

I was 24 years old, I was so stretched and exciting,i said for my self ıt's a dream ı must relax,ıt's amazing ,unforgetable for us :cool:

[Love9408]

I agree totally with Petal, the search should never end until you have found that person whose been waiting on you, searching themselves for you.

Look at the positive things DegeneresDerossi2007, the positive thngs about yourself, project them while you work on your self confidence, that will help you to work towards your goal. Its not always easy to do, but you will get there in the end, tho I know you not, I promise you that. Chin up kiddo. :)


I also agree, i searched in guys and girls and couldn't find anybody then i met her. It was like WOW, i knew the minute i met her that i would marry her someday. She told me that she prayed for a person like me, i love her. But my point, WAIT!! She will come and make you the happiest person alive!!!

[DegeneresDerossi2007]

Thanks People when i find her i will call :lol: all of you... :cool: I shall find her some were in the USA... :P

[edgeyoukated]

I was like 6.
Er, something.

Thanks People when i find her i will call :lol: all of you... :cool: I shall find her some were in the USA... :P
:D
Going to hold you to that one!! Thats for sure!! One last thing, next time you or anybody else here decides to beat up on yourself, stop and think nah, doesn't do me any good, I'd just make some adjustments to my thinking, sounds all very righteous, but I had the same thing said to me some years ago, and it works.

i'll get off my soap box now.

[NorthlandBound458]

well..i'm still in it, (first real relationship with a girl) but it was odd coming into it. i tried to date my closest guy friend, who was a past alcoholic and still hasn't really given it up. i figured if it was going to work with a guy, he was my best chance. well, we went to go see Walk the Line and he reached for my hand. as soon as he grabbed mine, I threw up everywhere. last attempt with a guy, with good reasoning, most would probably agree.

anyhow, I found a girl who I went to middle school with. march 7th was our year anniv. hurrah?

well, I think it's about time there's a story with a happy ending posted--as opposed to the "she left her longtime man for a woman anyone could've got" ordeal. just my opinion. :-)


brittany

[NorthlandBound458]

kind of posted off topic here. first time was a lot less awkward then i would've thought. it was her first too.

the only thing really downing it is the oppression from society..i mean, we're in tennessee. it's crazy..

[swan]

my first time wasn't that great. she was a person very close to me, but it should have never happend with her. it would have been better to wait for the right person. so it became a one- night stand with a bitter aftertaste.

[Mushanga]

this might sound strange but my first time was with my girlfriend which i still have and i was 35 when it happened. the girlfriend i had before her and i never had sex because she didn't wanted it. so you might say that i lost my virginity with my girlfriend which i still have (almost 11.5 years now) and i must say, it was awesome, great the best ever.

[Elise]

the best ever.
You never tried someone else :lol: So how can you know? :P

[Mushanga]

the best ever.
You never tried someone else :lol: So how can you know? :P

i slept with a man and it sucked and now woth my g/f is just great.

[smithy1219]

hey, well i will keep it short or i will be here forever telling you how much i loved it but its a million times better than with a guy because u both know what u like because your both girls if you get what i mean and well it was for me the best experience of my life...so far. :-D

[Lost]

Unfortunately, I am still waiting for the first and hoping the only (woman). I am scared but I will do whatever comes naturally and pleasing her would please me. I'm a lonely, hopeless, romantic, searching for that "One". Anxious, but scared.

[KellyD]

I gotta say my first time wit a girl, was sooo frightning at the same time amazing!!! I was 14 at the time! I'm now 20 and with the same girl!!!!

[creusa]

Wauw! It's so amazing that you're still with her! (I mean between ages 14 and 20 you must have changed like, a lot, you're so lucky she changed with you!)

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