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witchofsadness
02-28-2007, 04:23 PM
Hi Foks,

did you ever have Sex or a relationship with transexual people? What do you think about it? Was it different than with "normal" folks"?

Linda

8O
witchofsadness
02-28-2007, 09:40 PM
Hi Folks,

Perhaps it is appropriate to tell all of you why I came onto these questions? I had been early transsexual as I have already told (nobody else is ts after the transsition), and since I am a lesbian, I have observed how biological lesbians reacted to lesbians with a ts past. But also, how it was in a relationship, if one of the two women found himself "suddenly" as a man.
What did biological women see in a woman with transsexual past? Her past? Her presence? Her future?
What did women who had fallen in love with such a woman find so attractive at them? What did she repel?
How did women react in a lesbian relation if one of the two women want to be a man? Was the relation still lesbian in their eyes or was it heterosexual?
Changed the relation, and if yes, in which direction?
Did the relation part because of this?
All these questions and still much more I have faced me. I had only a small insight for Germany. What is it like in the USA or Canada or somewhere else in the world? I hope that i find answers though you.

Linda
03-01-2007, 03:32 AM
I could have sworn I posted in this thread earlier.


Sorry but I have no answers to your qurestions, having never had such an experience and am unlikely too .
Mushanga
03-01-2007, 03:49 AM
Hi Foks,

did you ever have Sex or a relationship with transexual people? What do you think about it? Was it different than with "normal" folks"?

Linda

8O

not that i know of.
PaulaInLove
03-01-2007, 04:28 AM
I could have sworn I posted in this thread earlier.


HAHAHA, turn your head left, then right. Do you see empty bottles? Can you find a number with this sign "%" after it on any of the labels? Is the number higher than 40?
dj007
03-01-2007, 04:42 AM
I could have sworn I posted in this thread earlier.


Sorry but I have no answers to your qurestions, having never had such an experience and am unlikely too .




Hmmm Jaded I was thinkin the same thing... Some of the subject posts on this site are getting way way way way off topic (Topic = Ellen) ... but thats life in a democracy I guess... 8O
PaulaInLove
03-01-2007, 04:59 AM
I could have sworn I posted in this thread earlier.


Sorry but I have no answers to your qurestions, having never had such an experience and am unlikely too .




Hmmm Jaded I was thinkin the same thing... Some of the subject posts on this site are getting way way way way off topic (Topic = Ellen) ... but thats life in a democracy I guess... 8O

Oh I gave up hope a long time ago.
Mushanga
03-01-2007, 05:46 AM
i thought you could talk in this forum about everything besides ellen
PaulaInLove
03-01-2007, 07:34 AM
i thought you could talk in this forum about everything besides ellen

I guess you can, yes, but sometimes it just gets out of hand.
People are fighting wars over religious beliefs and I guess we all know that there is no right or wrong, so I don't see the point in discussing them.
Then there are these topics where I just think some stuff should stay in the bedroom or should be talked about with REAL close friends.
soozi
03-01-2007, 07:38 AM
well said Paula
Mushanga
03-01-2007, 07:42 AM
i thought you could talk in this forum about everything besides ellen

I guess you can, yes, but sometimes it just gets out of hand.
People are fighting wars over religious beliefs and I guess we all know that there is no right or wrong, so I don't see the point in discussing them.
Then there are these topics where I just think some stuff should stay in the bedroom or should be talked about with REAL close friends.

but why can we talk about the first time with a woman? the topic is the same as having sex with a transsexual. ot am i wrong. sex is sex
maeri
03-01-2007, 07:58 AM
well said Mushanga
PaulaInLove
03-01-2007, 08:17 AM
I never talked about my first time. And I don't feel the need to do so.

Plus, I wasn't referring to this thread in particular. There were other occasions where people said things that still give me nightmares.
Mushanga
03-01-2007, 08:20 AM
I never talked about my first time. And I don't feel the need to do so.

Plus, I wasn't referring to this thread in particular. There were other occasions where people said things that still give me nightmares.

but wouldn't it be a little narrow minded if we only talk about ellen? and i agree with about talking about the first time, you won't hear about my first time here.
PaulaInLove
03-01-2007, 08:23 AM
Never said it had to be about Ellen only.
Share you love stories with everyone, ask away questions about relationships, Ellen, whoever. Most gay-related topics are fine with me, too. But puhhhleaaaase, as soon as it comes to the crotch area it better be a hell of a fun joke.
And I'm voting for a No-religious-arguments-policy anyway.
josieand1
03-01-2007, 09:33 AM
Paula you are hysterical. Your posts always make me laugh.
Humanafterall
03-01-2007, 12:03 PM
Hi Folks,


What did biological women see in a woman with transsexual past? Her past? Her presence? Her future?
What did women who had fallen in love with such a woman find so attractive at them? What did she repel?
How did women react in a lesbian relation if one of the two women want to be a man? Was the relation still lesbian in their eyes or was it heterosexual?
Changed the relation, and if yes, in which direction?
Did the relation part because of this?
All these questions and still much more I have faced me. I had only a small insight for Germany. What is it like in the USA or Canada or somewhere else in the world? I hope that i find answers though you.

Linda

Linda,

I wish I had all the answers to these questions. But unfortunatly for you I dont. I have nothing but deep respect for basically all people who are going through (whatever they are going through).
I have no idea what you are going through, but I am always willing to listen to you.
As far as your original question about sex. Here is a link that may be helpful to you:

http://www.lauras-playground.com/trans_support_groups.htm

As far as love, I like to believe in the traditional definition of "Romantic Love". Meaning I believe that people should and do fall in love with a person rather then a man or woman or a person in transition.
Love should be based on what is best for the couple rather then what works for a societies social or political rules/guidelines/laws.
I wish you the best of luck with whatever path you take.

"Life is complicated so bring a map".

I'll leave you with some words of wisdom.
"No mater what or where we come from we are ALL Human After All. We all have belly buttons. I'll show you mine if you'll show me yours"-Kate
03-01-2007, 01:36 PM
I could have sworn I posted in this thread earlier.


HAHAHA, turn your head left, then right. Do you see empty bottles? Can you find a number with this sign "%" after it on any of the labels? Is the number higher than 40?

Does a barrell count? I looked for the "%" on that, still looking actually, so long as no one puts a time frame on me, this, I will find it............ Maybe.
PaulaInLove
03-02-2007, 02:46 AM
I could have sworn I posted in this thread earlier.


HAHAHA, turn your head left, then right. Do you see empty bottles? Can you find a number with this sign "%" after it on any of the labels? Is the number higher than 40?

Does a barrell count? I looked for the "%" on that, still looking actually, so long as no one puts a time frame on me, this, I will find it............ Maybe.

Are you making yourself some of "the recipe"?

(Not sure if you've ever watched The Waltons..my girlfriend is obsessed with them.)