How can u tell if someone is gay ?

[caaaaa]

i wasnt sure what to title this topic, so if the title is not appropriate, mods, please change it.

soo... im pretty confused about my sexuality. i kinda think im gay but ive never done anything with a girl. i just want to. and i dont just mean physical, but i want a relationship with a girl. at least i think i do.

theres this girl i see at my work sometimes (i work retail) and shes reeeallly cute and i have a crush on her. and i want to get to know her but i dont know what to say or do. and if shes straight, i dont want to waste my time or energy on getting attached to her or thinking about the possibility of an "us" if there is no possibility. i think about her a lot, but only see her like once a week. i get nervous when i see her and i want to find out if shes straight or not so i can either make a move or just move on. but i dont wanna freak her out by flirting with her or something like that. same goes with any girl i am attracted to. how can i tell?

any ideas on how to tell if shes interested in girls or not? any signals i can put out there to feel around to see if she is gay or curious? any advice is appreciated, even if its goofy. PM me if u dont want to respond publicly. please help!

[Mushanga]

take a gay newsmagazine to your job and put it on the table during a break when she's around and see what she might say. or start a conversation about ellen. say something like wow it's been 10 years she came out and look how far she came. do you know her address? you could write her a letter saying that you really would like te get to know her better or ask her out for a drink or coffee.

[Equus]

Agree with Mushanga...
Talking about ElleN may be a good way to open yourself to her. Inaddition, you may touch her a way you know show her that u like her (not too much) and see her reactions to you..
If she is straight, she would immediately react negatively (not negative but u understand from her movements)..
But if she is gay (hopefully) it may take a long time.. since she may also need time to open herself to you..
GOOD LUCK!!
We all here to support you.. and tell us the news!! :-P

[one_dream_closer]

Probably if you ask her what she likes about a man ?

If she answers ''his wife'' you will know!

[midwesta]

I honestly do not think the "Ellen" method is the best way. I know ALOT of straight women who live Ellen and read all sorts of magazines of different niches.

[Loopy_loo]

yeh i agree, im not so sure the Ellen thing would work coz a lot of straight people like her. (myself included). i think the magazine idea is good. thats subtle,yet its not if she doesnt notice it, make sure she notices that you are reading it.

i would say jus ask her bolt outright but u asking for help obviously means you dont feel comfy doin' that. so, id go with the magazine.

:P

[Humanafterall]

I agree with midwest, A LOT of people regardless of sexual orientation/ect. think Ellen is beautiful/awesome/terrific, just darn swell. So that probably wouldn't be the only "technique" to detirmine if you crush is gay or not.

On the other hand, I'm not saying Ellen should not be brought up in converstion as often as possible (cause as stated above....she is just darn swell).

As far as my advice. I'm sorry I don't have any :( I have no idea myself. All of my crushes have been either straight women or gay men.

But good luck, anyway. :?


Kate Bigalk

[Equus]

Probably if you ask her what she likes about a man ?

If she answers ''his wife'' you will know!
Perfect answer, laughed a lot :lol: :lol: :lol:
But here is the deal;
Do use magazine coz i feel they will work :P

[Magnolia]

Perhaps you could bring up Ellen and Portia. See how she reacts to them as a couple.

[searching007]

Inaddition, you may touch her a way you know show her that u like her (not too much) and see her reactions to you..
If she is straight, she would immediately react negatively (not negative but u understand from her movements)..
But if she is gay (hopefully) it may take a long time.. since she may also need time to open herself to you..
GOOD LUCK!!
We all here to support you.. and tell us the news!! :-P


i agree with the touching thing.. just a slight one on her arm or something when youre talking, saying hi/bye to her. subtle but do it with the mindset of being semi-flirty if that makes sense. good luck with this :-) most of my crushes have been straight girls as well and its fairly painful so try not to get attached too quickly before you know for sure.

[Jaffa1066]

why dont you just ask her out for a drink and take it from there. You will be able to read her body language over time and make a judgement from that.

Over drinks you could talk about your fave Tv shows ( TEDS) and maybe see what she says....you will see it from her body language if shes gays or not..

trust me
:P

[hermaphrodite]

why dont you just start making friends with her then give her a hint that you're gay and observe her reactions towards you. if she freaks out surely she's not into girls. but if she doesn't you have the chance.

honestly, you cannot really tell whether she's gay or not unless you ask her. or maybe observe if she positively responds to your actions.

[caaaaa]

wow, a lot of responses today! i love it :)

well first off, i dont even know her name yet. she seems shy because i just started saying hi to her when i see her and she smiles and i think she said hi yesterday but she sort of keeps to herself in that way. id love to find something to ask her about so we could get a conversation started.
2nd, i said in my above post that i didnt wanna freak her out but i suppose that if we become friends and she somehow figures out i might be into her and she freaks, she isnt a good friend anyway.
3rd, any recommendations as to what magazine i should buy to bring to work? and where to find them? the only one i know of is the advocate and i could probably find that at borders or something. or maybe i could buy the recent one online with ellen on the cover and then i could kill 2 birds with one stone by being able to talk about ellen and have a gay magazine.

any thoughts?

[rg4352]

Ask her if she knows Bette and Tina, if she watches the L word she will say yes, and that would be a good show to start a conversation about :D

Rach xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[Jaffa1066]

Yeah, The L word show could be a great conversation piece.

Sometimes you may find if she is into you a little more than in a real "friendship" way - she may become quite shy when you see eachother....embarrassment of whats going on in her head. and feelings for you etc..........

:?

Just a thought anyhow.

Friendship is the way to start anything though so give it a whilr and you have nothing to loose.
:cool:

[Mushanga]

Ask her if she knows Bette and Tina, if she watches the L word she will say yes, and that would be a good show to start a conversation about :D

Rach xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

some straight friends of mine watch that show, so that doesn't mean anything if they know bette and tina.

[midwesta]

Ask her if she knows Bette and Tina, if she watches the L word she will say yes, and that would be a good show to start a conversation about :D

Rach xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

some straight friends of mine watch that show, so that doesn't mean anything if they know bette and tina.

Yeah, but the show is very sexual and people have have big opinions on their relationship are most likely Gay,Bi or have no sexual orientation identification. The only straight people I know who watch the show know gay,bi ect people. So, maybe this may be a good idea, maybe.

[caaaaa]

Ask her if she knows Bette and Tina, if she watches the L word she will say yes, and that would be a good show to start a conversation about :D

Rach xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

some straight friends of mine watch that show, so that doesn't mean anything if they know bette and tina.

i dont even know those people. i dont watch the l word and havent seen it *backs out of the room slowly* :oops:

[caaaaa]

if she doesn't understand these signals.. forget about her she doesn't know anything :P :P (JUST A JOKE, DO NOT GET OFFENDED)
Good Luck!! :-P

no offense taken. actually, i laughed out loud when i read that. its very true. :lol:
well i know i have some time to think about all the advice because i probably wont see her til thurs, fri or sat. the tricky thing with bringing up something "gay" is that it doesnt necessarily mean she is gay if she likes it. but i guess i will have to add up all the clues and weigh them if/when something happens. btw, i dont drink, but maybe i could ask her out for coffee? i get so nervous though...she makes me nervous, even though at work i am outgoing. ugh.

[Equus]

So we made a deal, you'll ask her out for drinking coffee, and do not forget "touch"....
Tell us the news later on!!!!
i'm lookin forward to hearing from you..

[Kimmy266]

I agree with midwest, A LOT of people regardless of sexual orientation/ect. think Ellen is beautiful/awesome/terrific, just darn swell. So that probably wouldn't be the only "technique" to detirmine if you crush is gay or not.

On the other hand, I'm not saying Ellen should not be brought up in converstion as often as possible (cause as stated above....she is just darn swell).

As far as my advice. I'm sorry I don't have any :( I have no idea myself. All of my crushes have been either straight women or gay men.

But good luck, anyway. :?
Kate Bigalk

hahaha oh my god me too! it's so frustrating!! lol

[Kimmy266]

oh but anyway, good luck with making a move! im interested to see how things work out too :-P

[PaulaInLove]

I wouldn't ask her out for a drink directly..I'd be more like 'I'm gonna grab a coke, do you want anything?' or something like that. It'll be real nice and forward but it doesn't mean you're into her. You could just be the nicest girl on the planet.
And puhlease don't start any conversations on sex...she'll know that you have pictured her naked.

[haokan]

if you've not met yet, you may ask her out for drink.. This will immediately tell your intentions i think.. Coz no one (especially girls) invite somebody (especially other girls) before they develope a friendship... and you may hold an ADVOCAtE magazine in your hand and Ellen in the cover... and finally use your body language a bit unisex not very manlike.. or not very girlish..
MANY MANY SIGNALS AT ONCE..
if she doesn't understand these signals.. forget about her she doesn't know anything :P :P (JUST A JOKE, DO NOT GET OFFENDED)
Good Luck!! :-P

Hahahaha I can totally picture this!! Hilarious!!!

caaaaa I think everyone's been there and honnestly, looking for signs can easily lead to misinterpretation!! Very often people I label as gay actually are straight and vice versa...

Why not just try to be friends and then see what happens? Who knows, you might even lose interest once you get to know her. So far you like her physique and attitude but you don't even know her name...

Give yourself some time.

and consider yourself lucky! I live in South Korea, the land of touchy-feely people so imagine what i went through (and still do arrrrrrrg) when i first got here!

Girls holding hands, everyone naked at the sauna, girls rubbing each other's thighs and massaging each other..... wouah! I thought this was heaven on earth!

And guys wearing pink shirts, carrying their wife's purse... drunk men holding each other on the street... :lookround: Every day here is confusing for me.

Imagine the girl you have a crush on washing your back in the shower after a good workout at the gym... and knowing that this means NOTHING in this culture...oooooooh my! I was dying!! :huh:

Anyway, good luck and keep us posted! All that nervousness, questionning and goosebumps are always quite exciting... enjoy!

BTW I also have straight friends who love Ellen and watch the L Word so you shouldn't trust that "technique" too much... but who knows...

[Kimmy266]

Give yourself some time.

and consider yourself lucky! I live in South Korea, the land of touchy-feely people so imagine what i went through (and still do arrrrrrrg) when i first got here!

Girls holding hands, everyone naked at the sauna, girls rubbing each other's thighs and massaging each other..... wouah! I thought this was heaven on earth!

And guys wearing pink shirts, carrying their wife's purse... drunk men holding each other on the street... :lookround: Every day here is confusing for me.

Imagine the girl you have a crush on washing your back in the shower after a good workout at the gym... and knowing that this means NOTHING in this culture...oooooooh my! I was dying!! :huh:

Anyway, good luck and keep us posted! All that nervousness, questionning and goosebumps are always quite exciting... enjoy!

BTW I also have straight friends who love Ellen and watch the L Word so you shouldn't trust that "technique" too much... but who knows...

Oh my god you poor thing!!! Haha i would be dyyyyying! Just reading your post made me go 8O :o 8O :o WOO! But all those women are STRAIGHT? That's so crazy. I really feel for you!

My friend used to be all over me and touchy feely and it drove me insane...but another woman washing you in the shower after a workout? I think i would explode :P

[genelee16]

caaaa,

try looking at her for longer than usual, especially when both of your eyes meet, take a longer moment, but NOT STARE! Very often, by observing her eyes, you can really tell if someone is interested in you. Notice the way she looks at you.

If she does lock eyes with you in a conversation for longer than what usual people will, i say you try the next move, talk to her in private, where there's no disturbance or anyone around. If you are really shy, you can try your luck talking with her on the internet like MSN or something, that is if she uses MSN or something...

Well, i did all these and it did work out for me. :) i've got a girl now.
Once, you pass these stages, i will let you know the final step. :P :lol:

F.L.

[12BR]

caaaa,

try looking at her for longer than usual, especially when both of your eyes meet, take a longer moment, but NOT STARE! Very often, by observing her eyes, you can really tell if someone is interested in you. Notice the way she looks at you.

If she does lock eyes with you in a conversation for longer than what usual people will, i say you try the next move, talk to her in private, where there's no disturbance or anyone around. If you are really shy, you can try your luck talking with her on the internet like MSN or something, that is if she uses MSN or something...

Well, i did all these and it did work out for me. :) i've got a girl now.
Once, you pass these stages, i will let you know the final step. :P :lol:

F.L.


Hi F.L

Happy for U! N tanks for d tips. I am in Singapore too but no luck in the luv dept so far :( It is a conservative society generally...

How did u manage to know more like-minded + open-minded ppl in Sgp?

WES

[jupiterpro]

Hello fellow Singaporeans. Never thought there are huge fans of Ellen over here.

[Equus]

Give yourself some time.

and consider yourself lucky! I live in South Korea, the land of touchy-feely people so imagine what i went through (and still do arrrrrrrg) when i first got here!

Girls holding hands, everyone naked at the sauna, girls rubbing each other's thighs and massaging each other..... wouah! I thought this was heaven on earth!

And guys wearing pink shirts, carrying their wife's purse... drunk men holding each other on the street... :lookround: Every day here is confusing for me.

Imagine the girl you have a crush on washing your back in the shower after a good workout at the gym... and knowing that this means NOTHING in this culture...oooooooh my! I was dying!! :huh:

Anyway, good luck and keep us posted! All that nervousness, questionning and goosebumps are always quite exciting... enjoy!

BTW I also have straight friends who love Ellen and watch the L Word so you shouldn't trust that "technique" too much... but who knows...

Oh my god you poor thing!!! Haha i would be dyyyyying! Just reading your post made me go 8O :o 8O :o WOO! But all those women are STRAIGHT? That's so crazy. I really feel for you!

My friend used to be all over me and touchy feely and it drove me insane...but another woman washing you in the shower after a workout? I think i would explode :P

BE CAREFUL AND CHECK AGAIN I DIDN'T WRITE THESE!!! :? :? :?

[caaaaa]

well, i havent seen her since i started this thread, so i dont have a juicy update for you. :( when i see her, i will post an update. i really appreciate all the advice. thank you! :)

[Kimmy266]

BE CAREFUL AND CHECK AGAIN I DIDN'T WRITE THESE!!! :? :? :?

lol sorry...thats strange i must have messed up the /quote thingy

[genelee16]

caaaa,

try looking at her for longer than usual, especially when both of your eyes meet, take a longer moment, but NOT STARE! Very often, by observing her eyes, you can really tell if someone is interested in you. Notice the way she looks at you.

If she does lock eyes with you in a conversation for longer than what usual people will, i say you try the next move, talk to her in private, where there's no disturbance or anyone around. If you are really shy, you can try your luck talking with her on the internet like MSN or something, that is if she uses MSN or something...

Well, i did all these and it did work out for me. :) i've got a girl now.
Once, you pass these stages, i will let you know the final step. :P :lol:

F.L.


Hi F.L

Happy for U! N tanks for d tips. I am in Singapore too but no luck in the luv dept so far :( It is a conservative society generally...

How did u manage to know more like-minded + open-minded ppl in Sgp?

WES

yeah, i know what you mean, Almost every Singaporean is straight like hell. i bet if you tell them "i'm gay" they would say "Huh? what's that?. who to blame? PAP. :P

Well, here's a tip for finding like-minded/open-minded, just go along your normal routine of getting to know people. but never ever tell people you're gay on your first encounter. That's a BIG NO-NO. Once you feel comfortable with letting your friend know, you should be honest with them and youself as well. It's always good to drop hints along the way. i tend to ask them what's their view on homosexuality, their view really tells a lot. So, you have to be a good listener. :)

@ Jupiterpro: you Singaporean too?

[dream48]

yea man. PAP. =//
haha.
^5 genelee16.
=D

:lol: :lol:

[dream48]

12BR.

just a suggestion.. :cool:
how bout knowing open-minded pple or pple who r homosexuals thru the net?
like erm, www.fridae.com?
i knew my gal from there too. hehe..

:-D :-D

[_shadow_]

woohoo Singaporeans! PAP sighh....Have you guys receive your GST bribe?? haha

[genelee16]

woohoo Singaporeans! PAP sighh....Have you guys receive your GST bribe?? haha

:lol: :lol: that pathetic amount? it's peanuts to PAP. a small price to pay for the large returns that they are going to have, in return. Conniving BaaaStards!

anyway, it's great to see so many Singaporean here on the website! I think this topic of "how to tell if someone is gay" is so close to our hearts cause it's tough to get a chick in this homophobic society...

Did you guys notice that the past 2 weeks, there have been some debacle over homosexuality/ homosexuals in Singapore... some comments were plain "hate-speech". count themselves lucky to be in Singapore, if not their head would be at some place else now. :mad:

[_shadow_]

yes genelee, I was so pissed with Channel 5 that day, when ellen was talking about forgetting portia's birthday and they edited the whole part out. Imagine it started with her walking out, talking about forgetting people's birthday, jumps to there's a rich florist and cuts to dancing... sad

[jlilest]

I hope Portia got to see that when it mattered.

That is the sort of gesture you need in that situation.

[genelee16]

yes genelee, I was so pissed with Channel 5 that day, when ellen was talking about forgetting portia's birthday and they edited the whole part out. Imagine it started with her walking out, talking about forgetting people's birthday, jumps to there's a rich florist and cuts to dancing... sad

EXACTLY! that's so stupid, they edited out that whole monologue. there's also another one where they edited out the whole barbara walters interview... so stupid.

[_shadow_]

yes genelee, I was so pissed with Channel 5 that day, when ellen was talking about forgetting portia's birthday and they edited the whole part out. Imagine it started with her walking out, talking about forgetting people's birthday, jumps to there's a rich florist and cuts to dancing... sad

EXACTLY! that's so stupid, they edited out that whole monologue. there's also another one where they edited out the whole barbara walters interview... so stupid.

Oh really? i missed the grammy's show, i wanted to see if they edited the begining where ellen was reaching for the stage. Let's see if they edit the section when ellen talks about barbara going to their garden, tt sld be in a few days time.

[annita]

I just came across this on the yahoo front page and I tought I would share with you!

http://60minutes.yahoo.com/segment/68/gay_or_straight

[DGenX]

freaking ch5 :evil: .....the only thing i watched on it is TEDS....other than dat...bloody waste of electricity .......even the news is choreographed :evil:

[dream48]

its plain stupid.
ch 5 shouldnt be even doing this.
we want to watch a FULL show, and not something that is edited here and there.
:x
dont you guys agree?

[Kimmy266]

do they cut it out in america or something? we get to see portia whenever she gets a mention, like last night the camera panned to her for like 10 seconds when they were talking about why she only came to watch the show for the australian pavlova.

[DGenX]

its plain stupid.
ch 5 shouldnt be even doing this.
we want to watch a FULL show, and not something that is edited here and there.
:x
dont you guys agree?

they're not stupid just want to keep 'straight' :lol: ch5 will & always do this...dat's for sure.....if they don't someone wll get can. im gonna spend the 'bribe' money on a dvr :lol: :lol:

[dream48]

DGenx: you're from singapore too?

[DGenX]

DGenx: you're from singapore too?
:cool:

[genelee16]

I think we were all talking about caaaaaa and her relationship.. the subject matter have been completely changed since i last came this thread..
i think it is a bit unfair for her..
this is not the right place to talk about the things you've been talking about..
Just my personal opinion.. :?

i think we are getting kind of "off-topic"...

[caaaaa]

yea... it is kinda off-topic. i keep clicking on the "reply notification" things, but theyre not anything about the thread... well anyway, i have an update!!

i have to give u a little background on how we sort of work together. shes not employed by store i work at, like i am. um, theres this mentally handicapped worker we recently hired for janitorial and he has someone (sort of an assistant?) that pretty much follows him around, watches him clean and takes notes on his progress and what not. she doesnt come every time he works, but she has come less and less ever since he first started, so it is unpredictable to know when i will see her.

okay so two days ago i saw her! i am a cashier at my work and im usually very involved in my work and hardly look up or pay attention to anything else and all of a sudden i saw someone out of the corner of my eye and they started asking me a question. usually when a customer does this, i look up at them a little after theyve started asking it and i did and it was her!!! she said "wheres ______?" (the janitorial guy) and at first i was in shock but i played it cool and said something like "oh, hes not in the back room?" and she said no (and we had a short lil conversation about where he might be) and later that night when i went on my break she wasnt in the back room with the guy like they usually are (cleaning the lounge, bathrooms, etc) and after we closed, i just saw the guy cleaning by himself so i was bummed. i finally got the courage up (and the motivation cuz i wanted to update SOMETHING for those of u following this thread) and as we were walking to our cars in the parking lot, i started to make small talk with the guy and casually worked in the fact that i hadnt seen that girl that works with him. he dished that she is really busy with other people at other stores that her job has her work with so she hasnt been in lately, but he confirmed that she is still working with him and hasnt, like, left or anything.

today at work i was walking to the back to get water and i saw a girl with a shopping cart and didnt think anything of it until i got closer and saw it was her! it didnt hit me at first and i just smiled and said "hey" as i was passing but about right after the word came out of my mouth i realized it was her and felt my stomach do backflips. i couldnt believe it! i had never seen her shop in my store before, only work. she said hey back. she looked soooo pretty!!! and i got to see her up closer than ever because i passed right by her. i quickly got water, finished what i was doing, and went up to the front to start ringing on my register. she got in line and i tried so hard to time it right so i could ring her up. i kept looking in line to see how many customers were before her and our eyes met a couple times when i was doing that. i hope i wasnt too obvious. but anyway, my plan didnt work out and i didnt ring her up. i was going to say something like, "so ur just here shopping?" (yea, obvious question, i know but i wanted to say something to her) but i was just grateful and super excited that i saw her.

[PaulaInLove]

Omg, you and the janitorial guy totally need to fake up a problem. Have you asked him for her name?

[dream48]

perhaps when u get her name, u should ask her out for tea or something after ur work?
then both of u can slowly get to noe each other? :-)

[genelee16]

caaa,

you must be courageous man, if not you're going to be alone at this rate! (ok, i'm kidding... but there's truth in it) :lol: :lol:

Getting to know her name is really great, how about the next time you see her, strike up a conversation first by asking her name, something like:
"hey, i have been seeing you around but up till now, i'm still clueless about you name." *give the helpless look*

Then her reply would probably be:
"oh, yeah. my name is _______"

Then the usual is probably:
"Oh, nice to meet you!" Then, do you stay around this area? bla bla...

Then see where the conversation goes... if it really hits off, you should ask her out, for coffee or desserts... you know, just causual hanging around, (of course, she's will not have a clue of your motive) :lol:
Then just get to know her, by listening... i know the ladies loves that people listen to them talk... try to impress her with that...

caaa, i really hope you hit it off. CARPE DIEM! SEIZE THE DAY MAN!
i'm behind you!

[Liva]

okay, i understand you talk here about caaaa's thing, but the topic was - how can u tell if someone is gay, and now I have a question - how can I tell if I'm gay? or bisexual? how can I be sure, that I'm straight if I like men, but I'm thinking about women too. do I have to try the thing with a women? and what if I like it? I'm gay?

[LisaJr]

Caaa,

So, here's my advice. Cuz I was totally in the same situation. I work in HR for a retail store and we hired someone who also needs a job coach, which I think by the way you describe it is what this girl in question does. Anyway, I had the hots for the job coach and one day I just started talking to him about his job, asking him questions about it and why he decided to go in to that field. It worked, and we are becomming quite good friends.

Just an idea to strike up a conversation.

Good luck!

[caaaaa]

Omg, you and the janitorial guy totally need to fake up a problem. Have you asked him for her name?

i would loooove to fake a problem but that would mean id have to tell him i like her right? and no, i havent asking him for her name...(yet?)

there were so many other people i wanted to respond to their comments but i cant remember all ur usernames and the topic review doesnt let me see much, but to equus(?) yes i am slow i suppose but in between the time i realized i had a crush on her to now, ive only seen her 2 times (the ones i just wrote about) and the first one lasted like 20 seconds and the most recent one lasted for a minute but even though she was shopping, i was still on the clock and had work to do so i couldnt just stop what i was doing and strike up a conversation with her. when there is time (like a break time) and she is there then i would love to talk to her and probably would thanks to all the good ideas and support.

genelee16: i think i might ask her what her name is in a polite way to show her that im interested in getting to know her and that i want to know her more than just the girl whos a job coach for the janitorial guy.

Liva: ive been told that u have to experience something with somebody in order to know for sure. u can have feelings for someone all u want, but experimenting with ur curiosity seems like the only logical way to be sure.

dream48: im trying to work up to that

LisaJr: thanks for explaining the job coach thing. and i think ur idea about asking about her job is the very first place to start. the next time i have time to talk to her, a real conversation, im going to ask her about it.

[genelee16]

okay, i understand you talk here about caaaa's thing, but the topic was - how can u tell if someone is gay, and now I have a question - how can I tell if I'm gay? or bisexual? how can I be sure, that I'm straight if I like men, but I'm thinking about women too. do I have to try the thing with a women? and what if I like it? I'm gay?

i fall in love with THE PERSON, not its gender.
Don't hurry in labelling yourself, whether you're gay, straight or bisexual.
Experiment if you must, and most important of all, LISTEN to your heart.
Love works in mysterious ways... :)

[one_dream_closer]

According to a gay friend of mine
Streight means that you just havent meet the princess of your dreams YET (if you are also a girl) or the prince (if you are a boy) .

According to me that i am streight means that I had the lack to meet enough interesting men that there was not time left until now to search for an interesting girl. Nothing more

You choose definitions! hahahaha

And never say never! Thats my moto in life...And a small advice. Just have fun in whatever you do and leave definitions aside. They only exist as ''manuals '' to understand things but unfortunatly life's most interesting things are not ithe ones you understand but the ones you live!

[caaaaa]

Just have fun in whatever you do and leave definitions aside. They only exist as ''manuals '' to understand things but unfortunatly life's most interesting things are not ithe ones you understand but the ones you live!

well said! :bigups:

and my theory as well is that i fall in love with the person, not the gender. i wish it were that way for everyone :(

[PaulaInLove]

most girls are straight until they're not

[smithy1219]

caaaaa, i completely agree with you that you like the individual not the gender. If your straight you dont fancy every one of the oppostite sex and vice versa its the individuals that you like.

[caaaaa]

exactly! so why cant everyone have the opportunity to fall in love with anyone else?

"because lifes not fair." GAH!

[Kimmy266]

Mmm its hard when it comes to labelling yourself. I have a bisexual friend who just says 'who cares you can't always be certain EXACTLY what your sexual orientation is, some people can be 60% gay and 40% straight and so on...'
Though for me i cant just sit back and say 'yeh maybe im this...oh well' i have to know for sure who i am so i can just hurry up and live already! but yeh...just a problem i face at the moment... 8O

[one_dream_closer]

But you see the crazy thing is that you can be sure about what you are only if you have experienced both alternatives. But since you have tried both then even if you descide that you definitely prefere the one you remain in the midle according to excistent definitions. Its like colombus egg.

[Liva]

most girls are straight until they're not

what was that supposed to mean? :)

[Equus]

Let's gather on the topic.. Shall we???? 8)

[one_dream_closer]

Let's gather on the topic.. Shall we???? 8)

Come on Eques ...read your signature !!!!hahaha :lol: :lol: :lol:
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[Equus]

Let's gather on the topic.. Shall we???? 8)

Come on Eques ...read your signature !!!!hahaha :lol: :lol: :lol:
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Great observation... laughed a lot!!! :lol:

[Shady]

i think you should just keep bringing up little conversations about her to the janitorial guy and maby she will mention something to her about you asking about her and if she happens to be gay maybe she will start comming up to you more...

[Stellerk21]

Well my advice is just become her friend and if she knows your gay and she is, she will hint to you in do time. If not than you cant have to many friends. :)

[kaaaaaaaaka]

caaaaa: you havent posted anything in a long time...so what happened?? We want to know the end of the story!! :-D [/b]