I need some advice, please

[LisaJr]

I'm not sure if I should post this or not but I am in desparate need of advice. The thing is, I have the hotts for a guy who happens to be a good friend of mine. The problem is he's in an "on again, off again" relationship with a girl who treats him like total crap. Seriously, they date for two days then break up for two weeks. Anyway, when he's not with her, he always wants my attention. When he is with her it's like he doesn't even know me. I'm not sure that he know's how I feel, although I think he has supsicions. But he's the kind of guy that see's a girl he wants and goes right for her, so even if he does know, I don't think he's interested. SO, should I have "the talk" with him or is he a jerk and I should just move on? I don't know what to do and it's making me crazy! Seriously, I'm losing sleep over this.

I need some advice.

Thanks,
Lisa

[iusticia]

I seem to be in the mood for dispensing my advice today, so:

Sweetie, move on! You gave yourself all the reasons why. You seem sensitive and confessing your adoration to a cocky narcissist will only leave you embarrassed and unsatisfied in the end. Plus you've seen how he is in "relationships" - you don't want to be treated like that girl he's been seeing, do you?

[petal]

From what you have said it seems like he regards you as his "friend" - he is using you to lean on when his lady love isn't paying him attention. You do need to move on with your affections LisaJr.

[creusa]

Totally agree with the rest here, I'm sure you can find a better guy! And a better friend too for that matter. Well, it's ofcourse possible that he just acts so mean because he's confused with this girl he's dating, and he may need help from a friend like you, you could just be a friend for him (if that's possible for you, I don't know how much you like him, are you in love?) But anyway: DO NOT DATE HIM, because he will be trouble, he's not very stable right now with that other girl business. Let him figure that out first.

[LisaJr]

Thanks for the advice. I know I should just move on and forget him. Its just hard. I get so lonely sometimes. And he was a really good friend to me before this other girl came around. But you all are right. I'm just having a quarter life crisis. All my friends are getting married and having babies. I'm still trying to find my way. It just gets really lonely sometimes. Thanks for your advice though, I appreciate it.

[midwesta]

Just stay friends and who knows what might happen in a few years.