how old were you when you came out

[loz]

ok, so im 16 now (17 this august) and im pretty sure im gay and i was just wondering how old all you lot were when you came out to your parents, coz the idea of telling my mum kinda scares me a little ?? :-( :?

[Kooky_UK]

Hey Loz, I'm kelly and i came out when i was 15 (I still am)
I've only yesterday come out to my parents and that was only cos i got gr8 help from the guys on here.
DOn't be that scared and trust me you feel soooo much beter when its done.


p.s Yay to me for finally coming out, Hey y'all Party on me!!!

[DegeneresDerossi2007]

Loz

i knew when i was in higth school i was 16 and than i come out to my aunt when i was 24 ..I'm 26 know.It's was hard for me but i knew that i was loved i got good Friends and Ellen and Portia :cool: to look up too.

[lostioz]

I think I was 18 when I came out. Don’t be scared, she’s your mother! Stand up for your own truth even against the opinions of others, and live with the courage to embrace the unknown in spite of your fears.

You cannot be truthful if you are not courageous.
You cannot enter into reality if you are not courageous.
Hence courage comes first... and everything else follows

Good luck and rock the house!

[zoeak]

I was 17, and my parents pretty much figured it out (that is, there was crying over a girl involved on my part, and dragging it out of me on theirs), but I was really glad they did. I was a bit shaken for a while after, but I'd been wanting to tell them for a long time, but didn't know how, and they were pretty great about it. The telling can be hard, but like Lostioz said, living and not feeling true to yourself will be harder in the end.

[LadyDeath91]

i never came out...and im 16...but i always knew that im gay

[Louisa]

I am yet to come out, i'm quite confused about my sexuality i fancy girls but also fancy boys aswell so its very confusing plus i haven't had any experiences with girls so i can't really come to an objective conclusion so don't really fancy coming out unless i'm completely sure cos then if i changed my mind i won't look like a prat haha. I'm 17, 18 next month :)

[drummonger]

I came out at 14 years old, to my parents. My mother cried, but we are the best of friends, and she loves me, and has embraced past girlfriends. I came out to friends, boss, everyone else right around the time that Ellen did. The buzz around her comming-out gave me the courage, and it was the best thing I have ever done. It's great to live free, honest and open. I wouldn't have it any other way. Thanks, in kind, to Ellen...my hero! :)

[Branwen]

I came out to my parents when i was 22. It still isn't easy sometimes, but when i ask them why it makes a difference who i love as long as i'm happy and healthy, they saw things in a different light :)

Best thing i ever did :D As i came out only a few months after Ellen did and i didn't feel so bad then :)

@Kooky - Congrats darlin'! :thumbsup:

[12BR]

I am 26 when I told my mum. It broke her heart & she has not accepted the fact yet and still doesn't give up on persuading me to "reconsider".

Still need more courage to tell my dad and frens....oh it can be so frightening... Envy those whose family and frens accept them for who they are[/i]

[zoel]

I came out to my sister just before I turned 16, and then came out to my dad just after I turned 16! Today is my 18th birthday :) my sister's always been fine with it and me and my dad don't talk about it.
Good luck whatever you decide.

Oh yeah, and congratulations to kooky_uk I bet your still on a high!

[Vea_hearts_Ellen]

heya!
I've yet tO cOme Out tO ma parents :s Im scared as hell!
but I've cOme Out tO ma siblings and sOme Of ma frendx when I was 13 and nOw Im 16 cOming 17 (dec 2), I've tOld ma aunt and all ma frendx. They pretty much are cOOl abOut it sO, yea =)
Im maybe gOnna cOme Out tO ma parents but nOt just yet :s but we'll see!

anyway, happy 18th birthday zOel! =)
hOpe u have a great birthday! =)

xxx
Vea =)

[Valleysbabe]

I'm 20 now and still haven't told my parents. My sister and my friends know which is great, i'm just really nervous about telling my folks! :?

[smithy1219]

Im 17 and have not told my parents yet. I think they have guessed and I am ready to tell them (I think) but im just waiting for the right time. Or some might say im just putting it off. Most of my close friends do know that im gay but I have had a few bad comming out experiences so im quite nervous about this sort of thing.

Good luck if you decide to tell them and hope everything goes ok.
:)

[kristy77]

I am 37 years old and STILL have not 'officially' come out... and it hurts me everyday. All i can say is, to the young people here especially, do it--dont wait if you are ready to do it now--do it!! I think it gets harder as you get older.

[DGenX]

how old was i when i came out.....i think i was like 9 months when i came out of my mom :lol: sorry.....couldn't help it...... :P .....i dont tink i could come out cos' i doubt that im gay.....or even straight :lol: ....all i know i love men and women ........ esp good-looking ones...... :lol: sorry for being so cheesy but seriously i see/read there's a lot of youngens here who came out at such a young age.....unbeeleeevable.....but that's cool ...... just like what ellen said on 'the view' ...."it's a horrible feeling to be walking around....hiding something inside of you"...something like that :-D

[searching007]

I'm going to be 18 in a few months and I've just admitted to myself that I'm gay (been walking around as "bi" for like 6 years but known since I was little).. My close friends think I'm bi and the first step is to tell them..if I decide to :?. I'm definetly not going to tell my family because...well, then I won't have a family anymore. I'll probably be out when I go to college but the idea of it is so scary.. like being exposed. Anyway, props to everyone who has come out :) you have tremendous courage

[Liva]

I am yet to come out, i'm quite confused about my sexuality i fancy girls but also fancy boys aswell so its very confusing plus i haven't had any experiences with girls so i can't really come to an objective conclusion so don't really fancy coming out unless i'm completely sure cos then if i changed my mind i won't look like a prat haha. I'm 17, 18 next month :)

Maybe tell them, that you're bisexual? Have you admitted to yourself that you like girls just as much as you like boys? :cool:

[tanpau]

I came out to my friends first, that was easy cause my best friend was gay. Not long after that I got involved with someone and my parents started wondering why I hardly ever came home. I was 18 at the time. Got home one saturday (just in time for dinner) after a little get-together a bunch of us had at the river. Had one too many glasses of wine and sat down at the dinner table. My step mom had the worst timing to bring the subject up and well, lets just leave it that...
My gran was for some or other reason extremely over-joyed. So much so that I was concerned about a heart attack (she's eighty something), whilst my little brother (who was about ten) kept on asking what that meant.
it took some time for my dad to get use to the idea, he's fine with it now. No harm done..... Luckily I have a very loving and supporting family

[jlilest]

I realize that this is a bit off topic, but I just wanted to say how much I admire all of you here that are or might be bi or gay.

As a straight guy I can't begin to understand how hard things are for you in so many ways, big and small.

I really admire the courage and strength you show every day, regardless of whether you have come out or not. I can only wish that the day comes when it is just another attribute like the color of your eyes and not something that is feared or attacked. In the mean time, I wish you all the best.

[jlilest]

I realize that this is a bit off topic, but I just wanted to say how much I admire all of you here that are or might be bi or gay.

As a straight guy I can't begin to understand how hard things are for you in so many ways, big and small.

I really admire the courage and strength you show every day, regardless of whether you have come out or not. I can only wish that the day comes when it is just another attribute like the color of your eyes and not something that is feared or attacked. In the mean time, I wish you all the best.

[drummonger]

Thank-u neighbor (NC). That is very kind, and sweet.

[loz]

wow, i was not expecting that many replys (well maybe i should have been). That is a lot of support for people like me wanting to be out. I really wanna be out the closet now but i dont think now is the right to tell my parents but thanks for all the support.

[Kali5]

same with me i really want to be out and am not ashamed of it , i just dnt think now is the right time for me :)