Not necessarily a sexual question

[bekcat]

I know I don't post a whole lot, and I am probably not the most interesting poster when I do post, but I'll take my chances here. I guess I am asking for advice. I feel like I am at a crossroads with my relationship and I would like some objective advice on maybe what to do.

I have been in my relationship for the most part for almost 11 yrs. (with an 8 month break-up about 5 yrs ago). We are in two totally different places. We have been acting more as friends than lovers for some time now (the last time we were intimate is when we got back together...one time). I do love her, but I feel I am remaining here because I am the main breadwinner in the household and if I left, she wouldn't have really anywhere else to go but with her daughter (who is married) and I know she doesn't want to do that. How do I move on (which is what I want to do) and not crush her at the same time?

[Loopy_loo]

As much as you really dont want to put her in that position, you have to realise that you cant stay with her purely for that reason, as not only is it not fair to you, its not fair to her. But you said you do love her. so love is work. you need to talk with her get it all in the open, see how she feels. hope im makin some sort of sense. :)

[Ana Matronic]

It's better to break up for the right reasons, than to stay together for the wrong reasons.

[LadyDeath91]

It's better to break up for the right reasons, than to stay together for the wrong reasons.

well said ;)

[One]

Why do you ask us for advice and why do you talk to us? Talk to your partner! You can’t solve the problems on your own. Talk to your partner about that, that’s the best think you can do. Be honest to her and to yourself.