frapheigh
11-29-2007, 09:47 PM
I am in relationship with my gf for more than 10 years and we've been staying together since our college time. I love her so much. No one knows my real relationship with her. Her family always treat me like one of their own daughter and my mum treat her like her own as well. Both family knows each other well and there are times that both family join together on a certain celebration.One day ...on the day that I'm celebrating my career movement to a new company... suddenly she says that she have secret to tell me.. she on her knees, kiss my hand and apologise (normal in asian culture to do this ..especially if you seek forgiveness from someone older - my gf is 5 years junior than me)for not telling me that she already engaged for 6 months. I'm so upset and I can't say anything and the worst thing is the guy whom she choose to be with is my former staff. And she apologise for not telling me the truth because she knew that the guy will loose his job if I found out. I like the guy, I knew he is a good guy and always treat him like my own brother and that is the main reason why ...I guide him and develop him... he progress well from only a messenger boy now he holding a administrative position. I feel numb... I don't know what to do... and now I don't think if I see him ... I can treat him like my own brother anymore.
After 2 months leaving my old employer, now they contacting me back since they need me back to maneuver the department that I lead previously since it seems like the department is starting to falls a part and the team that I used to have is breaking up. Now... my problem is:
1. Should I come back to them... but I don't know whether I can be fair to this particular guy who turns out to be my gf's fiancee'. In fact today I will go and visit my former employer to have some discussion on the term of employment. My gf knew about it and I can sense that she so worried and requesting me to be professional in my judgement.
2. Should I stay with current employer... so I don't have to meet the guy and treated him unfairly and ... my current staff is begging me to stay.
I love my previous employer a lot, the only reason that I leave them is the 'pride' that I have in me ...we cannot meet the term that I requested for but now it seems like they would like to negotiate back. I look forward to lead back the team that I have previously...except for this one particular guy!
For my current employer... to soon to judge but I love my team that I have set... even the management admits that this is the best team that the department ever have and they trust me to lead and bring changes to the organisation. Now if I leave them it will be unfair to this new team that I have set because they were there because of me.
My gf will officially tie the knot early of next year and she requested me to treat her from gf to bff. We still share the same house but not staying in the same room anymore. How could this happen to me... I really have impressive career life but my love life is sucks!
After 2 months leaving my old employer, now they contacting me back since they need me back to maneuver the department that I lead previously since it seems like the department is starting to falls a part and the team that I used to have is breaking up. Now... my problem is:
1. Should I come back to them... but I don't know whether I can be fair to this particular guy who turns out to be my gf's fiancee'. In fact today I will go and visit my former employer to have some discussion on the term of employment. My gf knew about it and I can sense that she so worried and requesting me to be professional in my judgement.
2. Should I stay with current employer... so I don't have to meet the guy and treated him unfairly and ... my current staff is begging me to stay.
I love my previous employer a lot, the only reason that I leave them is the 'pride' that I have in me ...we cannot meet the term that I requested for but now it seems like they would like to negotiate back. I look forward to lead back the team that I have previously...except for this one particular guy!
For my current employer... to soon to judge but I love my team that I have set... even the management admits that this is the best team that the department ever have and they trust me to lead and bring changes to the organisation. Now if I leave them it will be unfair to this new team that I have set because they were there because of me.
My gf will officially tie the knot early of next year and she requested me to treat her from gf to bff. We still share the same house but not staying in the same room anymore. How could this happen to me... I really have impressive career life but my love life is sucks!